19 yrs ago I learned most profoundly the meaning of this statement, when my son was 11 and a boy, not even his close friend, told me he would do sacrifices for my son’s vocation. He never noticed, but those words hit me like I had heard the voice of God, that moment. Those words shat thru me, changing me into someone I had never been before. Since then, that statement lights my life at every level, not like a lighthouse in the fog, not like headlights of my car in the rain, not like a candle during prayers, but like the sun, brilliantly detailing the intricacy of how love rules every moment, every thought, every step, every temptation to not.
Nine years ago, my husband and I moved to Omaha, NE. and shortly after, I went to volunteer at a large parish of mostly Spanish people. Very quickly it became evident what God was drawing my eyes to see. The Hispanics have NO ACCESS to Natural Family Planning here, none. The parishes don’t teach it, the radio station tells all about free love, and their doctors press them ferociously to use contraceptives but better yet to get sterilized, that is the most practical of all. To date, I have met two 24 yrs old sterilized at 21, irrationally pressed by their doctors to do so. Countless of married women are been sterilized without knowing what they signed, and some never signed anything, just went to deliver her second or third child.
So I became a Natural Family Planning teacher and I use this statement in my classes as an introduction to Natural Family Planning. What would you do for love?
The classes teach couples how to use their conjugal fertility strategically as to space their children according to their plans, life styles, financial situations, even careers and vacations, using what is there naturally already, the rhythm of nature. No, it’s not the rhythm method, nor the calendar method, but the understanding of how to notice one’s own fertile time.
We, women, learn to know the time of fertility, the moment of ovulation. Try it, it’s incredibly empowering. It is true control of one’s own body, one’s own sensations, one’s own choices, yes, one’s own choices are then blatantly clear.
As opposed to what??? Any woman using contraception will tell you about the headaches, sore breasts, moodiness, weight gain, depression, and some more sensitive ones will tell you that they know they are used, just used, not loved.
Some may be aware of the side effects, worst yet are the consequences: the many cancers killing women the past 30 yrs, such as breast, cervical or ovarian cancer, permanent changes to the cervix, blood clots, birth defects of the children conceived while on the pill, strokes, shrinking womb, greater susceptibility to AIDS due to the weakening of the immune system, irreversible bone loss, decreased libido, acne, hair loss, back pain, and the knowledge that the pill does not always prevent pregnancies, so early undetected abortions are a reality, no one knows just how frequently it happens.
That brings back the initial question. What would she do for love?…Take contraception, even though it may kill her, for her guy?
But, what would her guy do for love?? Keep her on contraceptives to “love” her often? Or to take her off contraceptives to love her deeply?
Current statistic for divorce rates is 51% across all faiths but it is .2% among NFP users, and for the prayerful ones….? divorce rate is.02%.
So, what would you do for love?
By Yolanda Bello